When should we be dating exclusively
I told him how I felt about him and reassured him that I was dating him exclusively, but I was also honest about the fact that I needed more time to get to know him before I was going to be comfortable enough to enter into a full-blown relationship.Despite my thinking he’d end things, my hesitation didn’t scare him off. He was willing to continue being exclusive without being able to call me his girlfriend yet.Casually dating meant I didn’t have to worry about getting my heart broken, giving up my freedom or introducing anyone to my son.At a certain point though I grew bored of all the me-time and hook-ups.As a single parent in my 30s, I don’t feel I can be as carefree about falling in love or getting into a relationship as I was in my teens and twenties.
At the time, seeing a man one or two times and then moving on to the next was easier for me than anything committal.
This is usually on a deeper level than thought and may happen even with someone who on paper doesn’t tick all the boxes, but something in you is telling you they are the one. It’s all very well recognising you’ve found the one for you but if they don’t feel the same way then it may lead to heartbreak.
Before you give your heart away make sure the person you’re giving it to wants it.
Sometimes the decision to become mutual happens on its own because you’ve been seeing each other for so long it was an unspoken, natural transition.
Not everything has to be analysed or a date set for it.
When you’re ready to become exclusive it often feels like it isn’t a choice.